View Full Version : What Those With Chronic Pain or Illness DO Want to Hear You Say

07-05-12, 04:18 PM
July 5, 2012 by Toni Bernhard, J.D.

As a follow-up to last week’s piece, "What Those with Chronic Pain or Illness DON’T Want to Hear You Say", I thought it might be helpful to let others know what we wish they would say to us.
“You look so good, but how are you really feeling?”

It’s hard for us to respond to comments like, “You look so good” (or the always dreaded, “But you don’t look sick”) because we know that you’re just trying to be nice. If we respond truthfully with, “Thanks, but I feel awful,” you might be embarrassed or think we’re being ungrateful. It would be such a relief to be asked a question that goes to the heart of the matter: “How are you really feeling?”

Read more: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/turning-straw-gold/201207/what-those-chronic-pain-or-illness-do-want-hear-you-say

07-05-12, 06:28 PM
I especially like AWAP :) Although I haven't heard the phrase before, it is so fitting...going to adopt it.

07-05-12, 06:32 PM
AWAP Like!