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    Default How To Talk To A Depressed Person: What To Say And How To Help


    If you know someone who has depression, you might have found yourself at a loss for what to say. You might even fear that if you say the wrong thing, you could make it worse. As someone who has depression, I can tell you that you’ve already done something brilliant: you care enough to want to help.
    To help you help the people you care about, here are some tips for talking to a depressed person.

    1. Please Don’t Ask What’s Wrong Because I Don’t Know. Instead, Just Be There
    When someone is in pain, you want to find out what’s wrong with them — it’s only natural. The thing about clinical depression, though, is that, even though there might be a trigger event, the actual depressive episode can happen for no recognizable reason at all.

    Read more: http://www.care2.com/causes/how-to-t...#ixzz34nc0oiOP
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    Good tips. Based on my experience with a depressed relative, I think it's important to show a lot of love and empathy. Also, depressed individuals sometimes get stuck where they are, and forget that there is a tomorrow. So, I tried to encourage my relative to view her situation as "temporary" and to imagine a future when she would be free of her depression. This seemed to have a positive effect.

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    I've been on both sides of this, and know how difficult it can be. I like your approach Mr Wiz.

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    Agree. In most cases, these devastating depressions are indeed temporary. I think sometimes reminding that person that this too shall pass, can be helpful. At the very least, compassion and empathy will always be supportive.
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    Just to take a look at the "other side of the nickel" on this issue: So many people seem to think that the only way to offer help to another would be to do something or to get the other person to take their advice as to what they should do about the problem. When the person does not seem to be interested in receiving specific advice about what to do, or in accepting specific offers of help in concrete ways, the would-be giver just walks away in disgust. The suffering person is considered unworthy of bothering with at that point. Just being with the person in an appreciative, non-judgmental manner is beyond the capability of many people.

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    Maurya, how true!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maurya View Post
    Just being with the person in an appreciative, non-judgmental manner is beyond the capability of many people.
    You are so right!! Human nature forces us to view ourselves as "problem solvers." So, yeah, when the depressed person seems not interested in hearing our advice, we feel helpless and useless, and want to walk away. This is kind of what I was referring to as empathy. But, you said it much better...."Just being with the person..." This is so valuable.

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    The comments here are as valuable as those in the article, which are also good. Thanks.

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